It’s that time of year again when relationships are in the spotlight and the pressure is on to produce a spectacular Valentines Day.  But for many, their relationship has become stuck in a rut.  This can be for any number of reasons.  Especially when you get too busy with day-to-day life, like whose turn it is to take out the rubbish.  You and your partner forget the little things, like 
kisses and small thank you’s.  Sound familiar?

Most relationships don’t end because of a dramatic problem.  Rather, it’s the gradual slip of each partner’s behaviour that does it.  Here are 3 easy ways that will put a spark back into your relationship.

Appreciate Your Partner.

In the early days it was effortless.  Every gesture was met with the simplest relationship saver: gratitude.  With things like everyday chores appreciation can go right out the window.  You’re both so busy that you start to take what the other person is doing for granted.  Being appreciated makes your partner feel seen and heard.  They feel like they matter.  Take a step back and say ‘thank-you’.  Think of something everyday that your partner did and thank them for it - especially on the ‘bad’ days!

Be Attentive.

This one is mainly for the guys, although ladies – men like attention too.  Remember the effort you used to put into every date?  Women want to feel cared for, loved and cherished.  Little gestures of romance will go a long way.  Why not take turns to arrange a ‘date night’ every week?  Or send a loving text message?  And not just when you’re trying to get her in the sack or make something up to her.  The more you tune into her emotional needs, the more likely she will be “in the mood”.  Need any other reasons?

Look After Your Appearance.

Ladies, do you remember how much effort you put into your looks at the beginning of your relationship?  It may sound superficial, but men are visual creatures. Your hair, your body, your appearance is what caught his eye in the first place.  Remind him what he was attracted to. It is amazing what looking after your appearance will do for your self-esteem and relationship.

And guys, you don’t get off the hook here. Whilst the visual is generally not quite as important to women, no one wants a slovenly partner.  If you expect her to look good, please do the same.

Relationships need care and attention all year round, not just on Valentines Day. Your partner will soon notice that something is different. If not, take this opportunity to open up the lines of communication and talk about it.

To discuss how you can improve your relationship contact 
Nina on 07866 610 761, email nina@livelifecoaching.com or visit www.livelifecoaching.com